Lynn Hollars: I recently joined a book club at my local library. There are around fifty members all of whom are women except for this one old guy (35-40 years older than me). I am married with kids which everyone in the book club knows b/c we small talk about our families before and during the meetings.One meeting, he was sitting near me, so I asked him for his opinion regarding books that he recommended, and we started chatting. Well, this Old Fart took it to mean that I was hitting on him (in what universe? so gross). I naively didn't think anything of having a basic conversation about books as he is so much older than me and I'm married, but the Geezer propositioned me! He said that he "likes younger women because they aren't bitter like the old ones" and that "my husband wouldn't be intelligent enough to keep up with me."I made it clear I wasn't interested, and I'm seriously skeezed out with disgust. It's ruined book club for me (something that I used to enjo! y). Is this behavior normal? Do people have the moral code of a toilet? And do I tell the other women about this creep? It's obvious now why he would join a group like ours....Show more
Ulysses Failey: it is..... and if you win its a lifetime of blisssssss.... otherwise its shittttttttttttt
Lyman Gauld: My parents got a divorce last year but you just have to look at it in a bright kind of way. It's hard adjusting but you will get used to it. Everything will be okay. Trust me.
Daren Ventrice: Ignore him he will get the message dont give him any importance he is just a old man looking for a bit of attention and probably thinks he still has it to pull a young lass scuse the pung :p just carry on as normal and enjoy your book club :) let the old fart squirm he will soon find a new interest :)
Claude Gloden: So my dad cheated on my mother before like year ago and since then he supposedly havent cheated bur he keeps lying about other things and hiding ! it from my mom . My mom found texts and messages to a woman an! d they've decided upon their divorce . I have two little sister (3 and 6) and I am 14 (high dchool )of all things to make it worse I woke up to their huge arrgument and today's my birthday :'( . I normally always hide my emotions especially at school but today a few tears during some of my classes and I feel ashamed of showing tears/ weakness (there's a reason why for me I see showing tears publically is a weakness) I feel so sad and my grandma said he's probably not coming home tonight therefore he won't be celebrating my birthday with me and it's overwhelming because he appeared to be the role model I want for my future husband but now hes not and everything I feel like is crumbling down ... And I don't ahte him and I feel aortic bad for not hating him but that doesn't mean I like wt he did to my mom Sorry if I seem like a brat or narcissistic I also just really needed to vent to someone who wasn't extremely mad at my father...Show more
Lizzette Wendroth: Don't let ! that man ruin what you enjoy doing. You should tell the other women. He may want to hit in them also. I think the best thing to do is to stay clear from him. If you ignore him, then he'll get fed up and he will leave you alone.
Marna Liddie: no its not
Arlen Lopiccalo: This is not middle century so your brother doesn't have right to interfere in your love life. However, your ex should have also been more of a man and tell that to your brother himself, instead of braking up with you, so you should actually consider your mutual feelings primarily.
Virgil Menefee: its not a gamble its a risk and it involves feeling and willingness to trust.
Moises Rupinski: Your brother has no right to interfere, make sure he knows that!
Kate Baune: ok?
Jacques Vaquera: It is a 50/50 gamble these days but increase the odds with truth between you and your partner and you and yourself before you tie the knot. Love is not enough and lust isn't close to enough.! Factors:Love #1Attraction #2Similar interests/morals #3 (compatability)! Money (at least finacial stability) #4...Show more
Alisia Sutphen: Sort of...but marriage is part of life and has been around for thousand of years. Not all turn up bad. Well, some just happen to be unfortunate. Just like driving a car.. i cannot promise you that i will not be involved in any accident. Even you tried your best to be a goood driver, it just happen. Take a gamble...marriage may not be a bad thing for everyone.
Thurman Buege: I have this ex , we were going out for a bout a year and 3months , we were a perfect couple , my brother found out we were going out , and saw my ex at the barber shop and told him to stay away from me , my ex is so scared of my brother that he broke up with me .. We still taljk and are madly in love with each othet , what should I do?
Helen Zafar: I hope not, it should be an adventure not a gamble.
Marcia Cheathan: what the hell does he interfere?
Tamatha Neubaum: I understand your problem but does it call ! for all the name calling. Would you still do and say all this if the guy was your age and so handsome you can"t keep from looking at him? I"d say no you would not. Just think some day your going to be old and you will hear someone say things about you, than you"ll see how it feels.
Shawnna Kusky: Marriage is not a gamble...its 2 people coming together witha commitment to be there for eachother....There are people who date eachother for a long time and get married...still its not successful....But u could say an arranged marriage is all stupid where the bride and the groom hardly know each other.....But i guess one way thats the best.....cause u dont have to hear from the wifey "Hey u were so Romantic ,caring b4 marrying me "......."things have changed s much now" etc..etc....Marriage is the willingness to share ur life with ur partner....find a true meaning of love,make a whole new meaning of life.....One has to work on tehir respective marriage to keep it strong as ! years pass by.......always find new ways to love ur better half........! Show more
Kirk Coolbeth: Yes. It's a gamble. However, you can increase the odds in your favor by being open and honest, getting pre-marital counseling, and truly making the commitment to stay together, even through the rough times. (Exception: abuse of any kind--verbal, physical, substance, etc.)
Nia Monopoli: When you gamble, in general, you have to put up a stake and take a chance, right? Same thing with marriage. You put up your heart...your vulnerability...and you take a chance of getting hurt. HOWEVER....if you win, you hit the JACKPOT and are able to have a loving companion. You can't find love if you're not willing to play the game and be vulnerable. If you don't win...you go on until you're ready to play again.
Rosalia Hibler: I'm so sorry sweety ((hugs)) I have a 14yr old son :) what a precious age and your parents are missing it. How sad for them. I'm glad that you love both of your parents because it's impossible to know the whole story of ! why things have deteriorated to this point. You ought to write them each a letter telling them how stressed and broken hearted you are and how badly all of this is going to affect your little sisters too. If they only knew how their inabilities to solve their problems in a nice way is harming everyone.They could patch things up and make the family whole if they were willing to put in some effort and work. There are so many good books out there and if they would read them and try to become better people, your whole family would benefit. The problem is that people are generally lazy and they want magic fixes. Beg them to try....Show more
Felipa Nosis: Marriage is an adventure....not a gamble....
Russell Mckinzie: from my experience, it's a BIG gambling. i wasn't lucky at all and i can't do anything because a baby came into picture. keep your eyes opened and if you feel something is not all right, have the power to say no.
Cassondra Vanholland: YOUR RIGHT....! .these people who say its not a gamble... are seeing life through rose ! colored glasses...Their spouse cheat on them and they are the ones who will want to work it out 2-3 times... I say bull crap...Marriage is a gamble........ some relationships win some lose... it takes two to make a marriage last, one to break a marriage......Show more
Cletus Makler: Dear Rachel,I would just ignore him and not feed his initiative to dialog with you. Do not sit near him. If nothing else works confront him and tell him that you do not desire his overt attention. Best of luck.Anthony...Show more
Elbert Donatelli: It is, since there are so many synamic parameters on this equation and keeps changing all the time, that's why most marriage fails.
Maurice Breuning: Well every decision one takes in life its a gamble, you win some or lose some. You win a wonderful wife or mad scientist, your decision!
Lana Uliano: If anyone lacks wisdom, whether in choosing a mate, or in any other choices in life, the God of Heaven, who has revealed Himsel! f in the Holy Scriptures, promises to give wisdom to thosee who ask Him for it in faith (for whoever would seek God must believe that He exists and rewards those who search for Him with all their hearts).
Georgina Natal: DUDE LIFE is a big gamble !!!You take your chances of being one of the 300,000 people killed each year in a car accident every single day...Yet you jump right in the car and go without ever a thought of that......Show more
Azalee Ahrendes: Not at all unless it's a love marriage. Love Marriage is a Gamble coz. u never know when the love n affection will disappear and somtimes u may have to repent n regret for your actions.Take Care
Willie Tun: NO.
Ulysses Failey: How could it be a gamble if you choose whom you marry you know the person and you know what to expect from them So DUH
Judie Kise: That is probably the worst part of divorce. Parents are so angry with their spouse that they completely forget the children's feeling. W! hat your father did was wrong. When people have been married for a num! ber of years, they get comfortable with each other and the marriage gets a bit "boring". Each wants some excitement in their lives but don't know how to communicate with the one person they should, the spouse. So, they look else where. Making excuses does not make it right. I know you are hurting, please try to help your two sisters to understand. Believe me they do know what is going on in their own ways and they need some one older to help them. If you can't talk to your parents, talk to grandma. If you need to, talk to your counselor at school. There are times when you will feel sad and tears will come, it is best to get them out. If you still need more help or someone to talk to, we are all here to try to help. Good Luck
Elva Batie: Say you date someone for years before getting married and you are sure they are the one. You've done pre-marriage counseling and asked all the questions about kids, location, jobs etc. So you get married...It is a gamble only! in the fact that people change,your points of views change, goals change. This does not mean divorce if you are not changing with them. The trick is compromise and compassion. You can never know what will happen tomorrow or next year or a decade from now. All I can hope in my own marriage is that my husband and I will grow together. If our goals become different, it's knowing that one of the reasons I married him is for our communication skills and our problem solving that is a comfort....Show more
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